“If your enemy is hungry, give him something to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you”
Proverbs 25 v 21-22
In this day and age we find the general reaction to getting hurt or offended by someone to get some sort of revenge or say something nasty about them. We should instead pray about the situation we find ourselves in. Our approach should be to address the problem with the offender in private and not slander them.
This verse is repeated again in Romans 12 v 20 as the contrary to taking revenge. We are told in verse 19 that we should not get even with those who do wrong to us, that is for God to take care of. It is often said that we should always be the bigger person and walk away from a row or make peace with the person who has annoyed us. It is easy to say we forgive someone, but we must really mean it and be totally at peace with it, if we find that we are not we should pray about it so that God will help us to overcome.